We have all been presented with wonderful opportunities at some point in our lives and have turned these opportunities down for a reason that seemed valid enough at the time, only to find ourselves months or years down the line thinking 'what if'?!!!
Why is it that when we find 'the one' we don't hang on to them like we should?
Why is it that when we get offered the perfect job, we turn it down because we're intimidated by the chance that it could be too good to be true?
Why is it that when someone offers to help us, we refuse because we believe that we can do it on our own or that we don't want to owe anyone anything?
I could go on and on asking these questions, but i'll stop there.
These are all opportunities that most of us live our entire lives dreaming of, and for most will never get the chance to see them materialize!... So why is it that when they come knocking, we fail to answer the door?!
They say lightening doesnt strike the same place twice, and i'm a firm believer in that. I believe that one should never take things for granted, as regret is a horrible lifelong companion. I never want to look back and regret anything, but if i had to then i'd rather regret things that i have done and didnt work out than things that i didnt do. 'What if?' are two words that i would never want hanging over my head, not now, not ever!
Love is the most common cause of 'What if?' cases. It is rare, and most of us live our whole lives without feeling the sting of cupid's arrow. However, there are those of us lucky enough to be chosen by cupid at least once in their lives, yet they take the other person for granted and before they know it its too late and that other person has moved on.
Heres one final question that I have as i've noticed this in relationships i've had in the past and in relationships my friends have been in; Do men have higher tolerance for cupids potion that by the time it reaches their heart the effect of that same potion had worn off the heart of the woman they truely desire?
Lovers, I will leave you with this, next time lightneing strikes embrace it and make the most of it as lightening does strike the same place twice... and neither does Cupid's bow and arrow!!!
xo
Dear Dina,
ReplyDeleteThat was a nice article, especially the comment quoted by the lost love..!!
Well, I believe that every relationship that we make or will make is a learning. And every moment that we pass must be an experience and learning of life. So REGRET should never be the part of our lives. There are no mistakes, there is only a learning..!!
And most importantly, you can't judge your decision in future, based on the outcome of the choice. It must be remembered that such "Choice" was made as seemed most befitting the situation. Hence, on the based perception, it was the best choice. As is always said, "Its not the choices that go wrong, its the outcome."
As far as love goes, well, we all know, guys fall in and fall out of love much faster than gals, hence their love always stands the test of "being faded", but yes, those who overcome this are the best men (as loving husbands). "taken for granted" is not just a case between the lovers, its everywhere, so I would believe that this is a vice prevailing in every realm, rather than a particular kind of relationship. And its a "Vice", so neither should we practice it, nor should we allow ourselves to be a target of it..!!
As for your friend, I think, may be, Allah has kept someone great for him. Let him just make sure that he doesn't miss his golden opportunity..!!
And yes, "There is always a next time", even in the same relationship..all we need is to find the right motivation. After all, what in this world is not replaceable (with a few very important exceptions)..?
Thanks..!!