Verb: Love and respect (someone) deeply.
Two words, one is a verb, one is an adjective and on paper
are very much directly related. However,
my male friends, don’t make the mistake of thinking that they exert the same
effect when said out loud to your lady!
Let me tell you right now, every woman wants to be adored
and if she tells you otherwise; she’s either lying or she’s getting it from
someone else!... On the other hand, however, most of us do not want to be
labelled as adorable by the opposite sex especially if our feelings for that
man extend beyond your average friendship parameters!
Love. Respect. I don’t know about you ladies, but these are
the two most important and valuable things to me when referring to a relationship
and someone who I’ve signed a psychological contract with to love and respect
him back. These are the essence and bare
minimum of any strong, loyal, happy and long-lasting relationship. I’m all for compromises, but love and respect
are the building blocks of my priorities, standards and values when it comes to
relationships.
Calling me adorable on the other hand is something that I
can definitely (and prefer to) live without.
I don’t need a man to tell me that I’m beautiful every day cause I know
that every once in a while he’ll be telling a lie (a white lie, but a lie
nonetheless). I don’t need a man to tell
me that I look good in everything, cause even if he truly believes it (bless him), there
will be days when I will pick an outfit that I will be convinced (although not necessarily true) makes me look
fat or pale or tasteless (I’m not perfect).
And I most certainly do not need a man (although nice if he does so every now and then) to tell me how adorable he thinks
I am, because like anything else, that won’t last forever... try to take that
to the bank in twenty years time and see what you can get for it!
What I do need is a man who will love me... a man who will
respect me... a man who will adore me!... Because even if that doesn’t last
forever, to have been loved, respected and adored once is better than to never
have been loved, respected and adored at all!
So adore me... but do not call me adorable!
D
xo
