I've noticed a growing trend lately with a large percentage of males in Dubai to whom the word "NO" (coming from a female) means absolutely nothing
I don't know whether its a lack of respect for women, or the fact that the majority of the men in this city think that they're heaven-sent, but telling a male that your not interested these days is the worst thing a female can do if she wants to get rid of him as they think that any response from a female (even if it is a NO) is like an invitation to continue whatever the hell it is they're doing - whether its trying their pathetic pickup lines, asking you where you are from before they even say hi (which seems to be a trend), or just awkwardly standing next to you or in front of you and stare and not say anything hoping that you'll just fall head over heels in love with them and live happily ever after!!!!!!!!!!!!! (seriously?.... WOW)
I went to Barasti last night with a friend of mine (girl) after the Rugby Sevens (therefore i was all kitted out in NZ gear)... she got up and went to the bathroom... she was gone no longer than 5 minutes and here's what happened:...
1 Minute - The Creep - a creepy old man who's old enough to be my dad:
The Creep: "excuse me, when is the best time to go to New Zealand"
...the guy didn't even know where NZ was so you can imagine how the rest of the conversation went!
2 Minutes - The Loser - some desperate guy who had clearly come to Barasti hoping to find some poor drunk expat who's vision will be so blurred that she'll think he's prince charming:
The Loser: "are you Arab?"Me: "NO".The Loser: "are you Indian?"Me: "NO".The Loser: "are you Arab?" (yes... AGAIN)...
...let’s just say what happened next made sure that he won’t be showing his face at Barasti again
3 Minutes - The Fly - some dude kept circulating around me probably in the hopes that I’ll eventually look up, see him and fall head over heels in love with him (cause let’s face it... that’s how it normally works right ladies???!!! *eyes rolling*)... he eventually ended up behind me at some point, taps me on my shoulder and says:
The Fly: "can i buy you a drink?"
.... no thanks, i can afford my own drink!
4 Minutes - The Smooth Guy - so some guys think that they're sooo smooth.. sooo charming... sooo irresistible... that all they have to do is drop a casual (more like a random) line to get the girls attention and she'll be hooked:
Smooth Guy: "why is a pretty girl like you sitting alone"Me: "I'm not... my friends just gone to the bathroom"Smooth Guy: "friend girl or friend boy" (oh god the freshness!!!)Me: "it doesn't matter... now move along"
5 Minutes - my friend comes back and i thank the lord
But seriously, what is it with guys being so desperate these days... i mean the ratio of women to men in this world is 1:1.05... so it is almost safe to say that for every man there is a woman... so relax guys... stop being so desperate... and when a woman says "no" that means "NO"... move on to the next poor victim
TIPS:
- I understand that most men fear rejection as it lowers their self esteem, but sometimes rejection can turn into an ordeal ten times worse if a male is in denial and chooses not to accept it... and that, my male friends, i can guarantee will do some serious damage to your self esteem
- Also, here's another little tip my male friends (thank me later)... if you are frequently hearing "NO" and getting rejected; its clearly time to CHANGE YOUR APPROACH!
- Not every women is going to be interested in you... so get over your self and stop thinking that. In saying that, that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you, it just means that she's simply not interested in you and that she probably not right for you so separate your sense of self-worth from how women perceive you and MOVE ON!
- If you're embarrassed of getting rejected in front of your "boys" then don't hit on women while they're around... because let me tell you a little something about us women... we DON'T get intimidated... so if you're on your own or with your posse... we will still reject you if we want to... so save yourself the humiliation and do it without your posse holding your hand
- Don't hit on a woman just for the sake of it.... when will men learn this.... stop being horny and control yourself for gods sake!
LMAO! I have to admit, this blog kept me laughing for a good 15 min.
ReplyDeleteIt’s pretty much what happens not only at Barasti, but almost everywhere a man can actually spend a good time listening to music or have some drinks in Dubai, and to be honest, men are simply like that, especially when having the magical drink (BOOOZ).
A little tinny part of the brain keeps on Saying ' I will do my best to hit on the first good looking girl I see tonight' - its kinda genetics - and I am assuming, since that day was after Rugby 7, everybody was kinda wasted.
Nevertheless,
1- It’s those guys who create the drama for others to have a good laugh at, when being rejected by a lady, like you (audience will be ME in this case).
2- Thats how Barasti ends up making HEAPS of money, from fools like the guys above, thinking deep in their perverted mind, they can simply find a fool who would fall in love with them (with a drunky face) at first site, and end up going there!
Good luck turning such guys down, because not only do they not give up, they become smarter too, and if you think one of them was a Smooth Guy, I guarantee you he might be a rooky getting trained!
PS: A 26 yrs old man’s prospective, so I might be totally wrong!
Great Blogs! Keep it up!
hahaha thanks Ahmad, your comment really made me laugh
ReplyDeletei'm glad you enjoyed it :)
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ReplyDeleteThat's funny! But let me ask you this. What is the best we you personally like to be approached with? And what do girls prefer in general?
ReplyDeleteexcept for the loser, you didnt say NO to any of them :D nonetheless, i think it also depends on why u r there in a place like barasti. ive seen these things working on girls who are there for making these things work.
ReplyDeletePS: are you arab? LOL
PPS: is it just me or the comments font is difficult to read?