One-Woman-Men.... an Urban Legend???

When a women meets a man and together embark on a new relationship, unless that man highlights his intentions to see other woman, a psychological contract is formed that he is a OWM or a "One Woman Man"!

Now let me make this clear as in the past, a OWM was believed to refer to a mans marital status and the practice of polygamy.  I am not referring to marital status and hence polygamy (which was a big misconception of the term formed within historical religious communities as it was not accepted by the Roman society nor by the Scripture).  I am referring to a mans sexual purtiy and moral to honor that psychological contract.

In today's Anno Domini era, the term OWM not only concerns married men and men who are in a relationship, but men in general!

This is because the shelf life of an average relationship is getting shorter and shorter... sad, but true!

Point is, my male friends; why is the attention and desire of one woman not enough these days no matter who that woman is?

Are One-Woman-Men simply an Urban Legend???

I really hope that the answer to that question is a 'No', but i'm not so sure anymore!!!

Facebook Fishing Anyone???

Ok ladies, so i'm sure that we ALL get these from time to time, the random message on Facebook from that random someone who's telling us "oh you're so beautiful" and "i just want you to be my wife... uhhh i mean "friend"!!!!".... yeh buddy sure u did!

Gentlemen, if you've ever sent one of these messages, i just wanna ask you.... DO YOU EVER GET A RESPONSE?????... be honest now -_-

Well, i've had it with these guys fishing for girls on Facebook... it started off a couple of years ago with one message every few months.  Now its one message every few hours!!!

So i've picked the best ones, the crème-de-la-crème, to share with you... Enjoy!!!

xo

Yes I can see that from your FB name -_-

No thanks... I'm happy with my old ones

Can someone translate please????

Again, I'm happy with my old ones Johnny!

I really hope he's still not holding his breath!!!

uhhhhh.... no comment lol

Whats with the ____@@@___@@@@__????

Surprised he didnt attach his CV!!!

Who's there?????

uhhh... NO, you didnt!

I think he's sorry?!!! :p

again... can someone translate please??

ok, really??? do guys really expect you to just  respond with "ok, sure, lets go out!!!".... NO!!!

What did you say about my mom???

But it doesnt stop there.....

and it keeps goin....

NO dude.... Rawan is NOT my cousin!!

AND MY ABSOLUTE FAVORITE..............

LOL the guy is talking about having children already????



Nebuchadnezzar II, Shah Jahan, King Edward VIII..... and You & Me!

The Chaldean King, Nebuchadnezzar II, adored his wife so much that he built her a 100 feet (30 m) long by 100 ft wide garden.  Built up in tiers so that it resembled a theatre. Vaults had been constructed under the ascending terraces which carried the entire weight of the planted garden. Nebuchadnezzar II built his Amytis of Media wife the Hanging Gardens of Babylon!



The Hanging Gardens of Babylon

Shah Jahan loved his wife - Mumtaz Mahal - so much, that he refused to let her death (while giving birth to their 14th child) be the end of her existence.  So in her memory, he built her one of the largest tombs today; a tomb that is not a piece of architecture, as other buildings are, but the proud passions of an emperor’s love wrought in living stones.  Shah Jahan built his wife the Taj Mahal!



The Taj Mahal



On 10th December 1936, King Edward VIII (in my opinion) made THE most romantic gesture of history, by signing the Instrument of Abdication and giving up something most of us wont even dare to dream of having just to be with his American never-to-be-approved-as-Queen-by-the-public darling; Wallis Simpson.  King Edward VIII willingly gave up his throne as King of England for Wallis Simpson!

King Edward VIII and Wallis Simpson

I dont need you to be my Nebuchadnezzar II and build me Hanging Gardens.  I dont need you to be my Shah Jahan and build me a Taj Mahal... And i would never want you to be a King Edward VIII, as i would never ask you to give up anything for me...

Dear Geek Charming: All I ask for is a simple romantic gesture.  An act of love, care and desire that will make me remember today tens of years from now!

Why is it so hard to find a man these days that is proud to show you (and every now and then the rest of the world) how he really feels about you?

I have girlfriends who wait day and night to hear from "him"... I have other girlfriends who would say no to a life changing opportunity just to be with "him"... so why is it so hard for "him" to do the same for "her"?

Once again... Attention All Males: Romance does not equal weakness so separate your sense of self-worth from how others perceive you.  To a woman, a romantic gesture is proof of your confidence as a man... and call me old fashioned, but theres nothing sexier than a confident man who's not scared of letting you or the rest of the world know that:..... She's mine!

The Perfect Rose... 25 years and counting!

They say that in Victorian times, a man would present a bouquet of roses to his beloved woman that held much meaning once the flowers were looked at.  These bouquets were called "tussie-mussies" and every relationship began with their presentation.

Well ladies, unfortunately for us, we no longer live in Victorian times.  These days, the only time a woman would be presented a rose or a "tussie-mussies" is if she's sick, in farewell or graduating.... every now and then one in a thousand gets lucky and recieves a bouquet on Valentine's Day, but point is that the evocative meaning of the 'rose' has dissipated with time and the power that a Rose once held is now inexistent!!!

This really saddens me, as I refuse to let such a wonderful symbol of love, honor and faith become 'just another flower' where these days you find in tasteless bouquets mixed with lillies, daisies and lotuses.

So allow me to educate the oh-so-confused modern day man and remind the oh-so-hopelessly-romantic modern day woman of the true meaning of the ROSE and bring back the Victorian Romance...

Yellow Rose: "I really care about you as a friend"

White Rose: "I really care about you more than a friend"

Amber Flush Rose: "You have a special place in my heart, although i'm confused"

Pale Pink Rose: "I'm trying to lead you on but have no genuine intentions" -  hence the most hideous color of all roses!

Pale Peach Rose: "You make me really happy and I wish to do the same"



Orange Rose: "I desire you"



Dark Pink Rose: "I adore you"



Red Rose: "I love you"



Purple Rose: "You are my everything"



Believe it or not, I have never had a man give me flowers my whole life, which means that i've never had the pleasure of receiving a Rose... of any color!

25 years on... and i'm still waiting for my Purple Rose ♥

The 'S' word

I know its a word that all females hate... and believe me ladies i dont like it any more than you do... but as much as it pains me to ask... are we being forced to Settle?

It’s been a while since my last post… and a lot has changed… a lot except for the fact that I’m still single and growing frustrated of males in Dubai

Are my expectations of finding a decent guy too high?...

Have I been single that long that the dating game has completely changed?...

Should I just settle for what is available?...

No… absolutely not… I refuse to settle. Surely there is at least one half decent guy in Dubai… right????

I thought I came close – TWICE – over the last few months.

First there was the guy who I’d known for a while; a friend… until I realized that although he was a “friend” to me, I meant more than that to him!... Nice guy though so I figured there was no harm in keeping an open mind and see if any feelings develop. Fortunately for me, he was part of the same social circle; always at the same place at the same time with the same crowd, which made it easy. Unfortunately for me, the guy would only BBM me on a Thursday night to see if I’ll be out that night. Never heard from him during the week… So he stopped hearing from me at all!

What is it about spending time with a girl at a place where you can actually have a conversation that scares the male species?... I mean males like to eat dinner don’t they? … They like to go to the movies or have coffee... dont they?  Well guess what Mr. Testosterone… SO DO WE!

Guy #2 – great guy… awesome to hang out with… really cute… hard working… doing very well for himself… not into partying... DOESN’T LIVE IN DUBAI!!!... typical!. Tried to stay in touch through BBM.. called me for Valentine’s day… but who am I kidding… I can hardly remember what the guy looks like now!

Ladies of Dubai…. GENTLEMEN OF DUBAI…. Whatever happened to traditional dating?

Whatever happened to taking a girl out to dinner?

Whatever happened to romance?

Whatever happened to a man going after the girl his heart skipped a beat for and making sure nothing gets in his way till he can proudly say to others “that’s my girl”?

Whatever happened to men with balls?

Whatever happened to heterosexual men?

Are there any left out there?

Are meterosexual men our only choice?

I just want a guy who will adore me but not call me adorable... a guy who will call me on Wednesday to make sure that he's part of my plans on Thursday instead of BBMing on Thursday night!

Well ladies... I refuse to settle... i will find my guy... and I hope that I'm a lot closer than I think!

 

xo

Middle Eastern Haven

On the 7th of January this year I got on a flight from Dubai and went to the beautiful Sharm El Sheikh.  I met my friend from New Zealand there, and I knew I was in for an amazing four days... and i was right

The next four days were nothing short of amazing... full of sunshine... beautiful beaches... and beautiful people

We stayed at the Marriott Beach Resort in Naama Bay... which was an excellent choice, as after walking around and checking out all the resorts, it was the most beautiful by far.  It had the best beach area and was within walking distance of the main town area.  However, there were two other options that were slights (key word being SLIGHTLY) closer to the main town area and were also very decent were; the Hilton and Novotel

Sharm El Sheikh visitors be warned: When you are booking at a resort in Naama Bay make sure that you request the beach side and not the mountain side.  Basically every hotel/resort in Naama Bay has two parts which are exactly across the road from each other; the beach side and the mountain side.  And although guests of either can use the facilities of both... crossing that main road that seperates the two is no fun

Also, as per my Nepal post, always negotiate and agree on the cab fare before you get in the cab.  We found this out the hard way twice... from the airport to the resort, and on another occasion from the resort to the old town area.  When you arrive at the airport, some guy will walk up to you asking if you need a cab - and although he will get you a cab, he will also rip you off at the same time - so say NO.  Walk out of the terminal and there will be plenty of cabs outside which you can negotiate a price with.  THE AIRPORT IS LITERALLY 2 MINUTES FROM ALL RESORTS IN NAAMA BAY.... DO NOT ACCEPT A HIGH CAB FARE!!!

However, overall, Sharm was very cheap; we stayed four nights at the best resort in town and spent AED3,000 which included accomodation, flights, and all other expenses (including cabs)!!!

First night, we went for a walk into town where it felt like you were in the old Vegas.  Neon lights everyone... everyone out and about having dinner/coffee/shisha, looking fab and ready to hit one of the three most popular spots in town; Pacha, Bus Stop or The Hard Rock!... We had dinner at some extremely popular shisha spot in the middle of the town centre and just sat back and people watched taking it all in!... What a place!

Second day, we spent by the pool at the resort where we soaked up the sun, sipped on cocktails, and did little else!... At night; we got all dolled up and went to the main town area for dinner and boy were we spoiled for choice.  For a place as small as Naama Bay, the number of beautiful cafes and restaurants is insane.  So we chose some place that was full of young beautiful people and we had a wonderful arabic meal.  We stayed for a while until the food had digested, then headed on down to Pacha where the party was really happening.  The place is amazing; its semi outdoor, and multi levels (kinda felt like we were in a jungle)!... we partied the night away then headed back to the resort for some much needed sleep

Third day was beach day... the beach was so beautiful that we were kicking our selves for going to the pool the day before.  The water was warm and crystal clear.  There were people swimming, diving, snorkling, you name it.  So again, we spent the majority of the day soaking up the sun, sipping on cocktails and doing little else!.  At night, we headed back down to town, but this time it was not to party... it was to SHOP!  The shops there have some of the most beautiful jewellery and accessories i've ever seen, and the prices are amazing.

Fourth day was full of beaches, lunches, more shopping and walking around exploring the beautiful Naama Bay!

It is true what they say though... Sharm is full of Italians.  Sometimes I had to remind myself that I was still in the Middle East

An incredible Middle Eastern haven overall and very highly recommended

Although a bit of warning: It tends to get very cold at night around January so make sure you take warm clothes!

I think i left my heart in Sharm El Sheikh!!! xo

Marriott Beach Resort - Naama Bay - Pool 

Marriott Beach Resort - Naama Bay 

Naama Bay

Naama Bay - The Walk to town

Pacha - Naama Bay

Attention all males: NO means NO

I've noticed a growing trend lately with a large percentage of males in Dubai to whom the word "NO" (coming from a female) means absolutely nothing

I don't know whether its a lack of respect for women, or the fact that the majority of the men in this city think that they're heaven-sent, but telling a male that your not interested these days is the worst thing a female can do if she wants to get rid of him as they think that any response from a female (even if it is a NO) is like an invitation to continue whatever the hell it is they're doing - whether its trying their pathetic pickup lines, asking you where you are from before they even say hi (which seems to be a trend), or just awkwardly standing next to you or in front of you and stare and not say anything hoping that you'll just fall head over heels in love with them and live happily ever after!!!!!!!!!!!!! (seriously?.... WOW)

I went to Barasti last night with a friend of mine (girl) after the Rugby Sevens (therefore i was all kitted out in NZ gear)... she got up and went to the bathroom... she was gone no longer than 5 minutes and here's what happened:...

1 Minute - The Creep - a creepy old man who's old enough to be my dad:

The Creep: "excuse me, when is the best time to go to New Zealand"

...the guy didn't even know where NZ was so you can imagine how the rest of the conversation went!

2 Minutes - The Loser - some desperate guy who had clearly come to Barasti hoping to find some poor drunk expat who's vision will be so blurred that she'll think he's prince charming:

The Loser: "are you Arab?"

Me: "NO".

The Loser: "are you Indian?"

Me: "NO".

The Loser: "are you Arab?" (yes... AGAIN)...

...let’s just say what happened next made sure that he won’t be showing his face at Barasti again

3 Minutes - The Fly - some dude kept circulating around me probably in the hopes that I’ll eventually look up, see him and fall head over heels in love with him (cause let’s face it... that’s how it normally works right ladies???!!! *eyes rolling*)... he eventually ended up behind me at some point, taps me on my shoulder and says:

The Fly: "can i buy you a drink?"

.... no thanks, i can afford my own drink!

4 Minutes - The Smooth Guy - so some guys think that they're sooo smooth.. sooo charming... sooo irresistible... that all they have to do is drop a casual (more like a random) line to get the girls attention and she'll be hooked:

Smooth Guy: "why is a pretty girl like you sitting alone"

Me: "I'm not... my friends just gone to the bathroom"

Smooth Guy: "friend girl or friend boy" (oh god the freshness!!!)

Me: "it doesn't matter... now move along"

5 Minutes - my friend comes back and i thank the lord

But seriously, what is it with guys being so desperate these days... i mean the ratio of women to men in this world is 1:1.05... so it is almost safe to say that for every man there is a woman... so relax guys... stop being so desperate... and when a woman says "no" that means "NO"... move on to the next poor victim

TIPS:

1. I understand that most men fear rejection as it lowers their self esteem, but sometimes rejection can turn into an ordeal ten times worse if a male is in denial and chooses not to accept it... and that, my male friends, i can guarantee will do some serious damage to your self esteem
2. Also, here's another little tip my male friends (thank me later)... if you are frequently hearing "NO" and getting rejected; its clearly time to CHANGE YOUR APPROACH!
3. Not every women is going to be interested in you... so get over your self and stop thinking that.  In saying that, that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you, it just means that she's simply not interested in you and that she probably not right for you so separate your sense of self-worth from how women perceive you and MOVE ON!
4. If you're embarrassed of getting rejected in front of your "boys" then don't hit on women while they're around... because let me tell you a little something about us women... we DON'T get intimidated... so if you're on your own or with your posse... we will still reject you if we want to... so save yourself the humiliation and do it without your posse holding your hand
5. Don't hit on a woman just for the sake of it.... when will men learn this.... stop being horny and control yourself for gods sake!