I've noticed a growing trend lately with a large percentage of males in Dubai to whom the word "NO" (coming from a female) means absolutely nothing
I don't know whether its a lack of respect for women, or the fact that the majority of the men in this city think that they're heaven-sent, but telling a male that your not interested these days is the worst thing a female can do if she wants to get rid of him as they think that any response from a female (even if it is a NO) is like an invitation to continue whatever the hell it is they're doing - whether its trying their pathetic pickup lines, asking you where you are from before they even say hi (which seems to be a trend), or just awkwardly standing next to you or in front of you and stare and not say anything hoping that you'll just fall head over heels in love with them and live happily ever after!!!!!!!!!!!!! (seriously?.... WOW)
I went to Barasti last night with a friend of mine (girl) after the Rugby Sevens (therefore i was all kitted out in NZ gear)... she got up and went to the bathroom... she was gone no longer than 5 minutes and here's what happened:...
1 Minute - The Creep - a creepy old man who's old enough to be my dad:
The Creep: "excuse me, when is the best time to go to New Zealand"
...the guy didn't even know where NZ was so you can imagine how the rest of the conversation went!
2 Minutes - The Loser - some desperate guy who had clearly come to Barasti hoping to find some poor drunk expat who's vision will be so blurred that she'll think he's prince charming:
The Loser: "are you Arab?"Me: "NO".The Loser: "are you Indian?"Me: "NO".The Loser: "are you Arab?" (yes... AGAIN)...
...let’s just say what happened next made sure that he won’t be showing his face at Barasti again
3 Minutes - The Fly - some dude kept circulating around me probably in the hopes that I’ll eventually look up, see him and fall head over heels in love with him (cause let’s face it... that’s how it normally works right ladies???!!! *eyes rolling*)... he eventually ended up behind me at some point, taps me on my shoulder and says:
The Fly: "can i buy you a drink?"
.... no thanks, i can afford my own drink!
4 Minutes - The Smooth Guy - so some guys think that they're sooo smooth.. sooo charming... sooo irresistible... that all they have to do is drop a casual (more like a random) line to get the girls attention and she'll be hooked:
Smooth Guy: "why is a pretty girl like you sitting alone"Me: "I'm not... my friends just gone to the bathroom"Smooth Guy: "friend girl or friend boy" (oh god the freshness!!!)Me: "it doesn't matter... now move along"
5 Minutes - my friend comes back and i thank the lord
But seriously, what is it with guys being so desperate these days... i mean the ratio of women to men in this world is 1:1.05... so it is almost safe to say that for every man there is a woman... so relax guys... stop being so desperate... and when a woman says "no" that means "NO"... move on to the next poor victim
TIPS:
- I understand that most men fear rejection as it lowers their self esteem, but sometimes rejection can turn into an ordeal ten times worse if a male is in denial and chooses not to accept it... and that, my male friends, i can guarantee will do some serious damage to your self esteem
- Also, here's another little tip my male friends (thank me later)... if you are frequently hearing "NO" and getting rejected; its clearly time to CHANGE YOUR APPROACH!
- Not every women is going to be interested in you... so get over your self and stop thinking that. In saying that, that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you, it just means that she's simply not interested in you and that she probably not right for you so separate your sense of self-worth from how women perceive you and MOVE ON!
- If you're embarrassed of getting rejected in front of your "boys" then don't hit on women while they're around... because let me tell you a little something about us women... we DON'T get intimidated... so if you're on your own or with your posse... we will still reject you if we want to... so save yourself the humiliation and do it without your posse holding your hand
- Don't hit on a woman just for the sake of it.... when will men learn this.... stop being horny and control yourself for gods sake!
